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Let me wear his tiny shoes
Before I start with my parenting mantra let me tell you something I never thought I would be the parent I am today.I had a complete different outlook towards parenting when I was not a parent.I never liked kids!! Yes you read it right.I never had the patience to deal with them their unending curosity was something I used to find as irritating.
“One tight slap” was something I thought was answer to all when it come to kids.I am the youngest and needless to say was/is the most pampered child of the family.I have troubled my parents in most innovative way possible.I have even asked my mother why did she take all that and why I was not slapped; as I would beat my baby blue black if he/she behaves like that.
Fast Forward-Today I am mother to a 20 months old boy and I am total opposite of what I thought I would be.I practice Gentle and mindful Parenting, again you read it right.He is my teacher he teaches me in every way possible; how I have to raise him.
He is his best guide.
Throwing my shoes off to wear his- A new me was born with him
Well my parenting started with a very painful experience of breastfeeding.I had sore nipples from the very next day I started feeding my baby.The pain was so unbearable at one point I though of giving up but the mother in me refused to give up and asked me to be in my baby’s position and imagine how difficult it must be for him to feed when he is not able to latch properly and since that day I have been following the same principle of parenting in every situation whenever I think of giving up and be the parent I thought I would be before I became a mother.
Wearing his shoes no matter how tight it feels- To Understand his emotions
Ever wondered what goes inside that little brain which is processing every thing at the speed of rocket and yet not able to express as they lack so many emotions and words which we as an adult have an access to.
Imagine there is a spark and you blow it thinking it will be put off by blowing totally unaware of the fact that blowing can result in fire.This is what happens when the babies have a melt down or they throw a tantrum.They are over stimulated.When there is a fire you can’t control the fire by pouring petrol you need to pour water to control that fire.As a parent our job is to control that over stimulated state and help them get control of their emotions and get back to normal.But most of the time we fail to understand it and in turn act by hitting them ,shouting at them for mis behaving.
I stay calm and hug him and make him understand that it is perfectly all right to vent his frustration out. Attimes it becomes so difficult to handle my own temper as I run out of patience but then I remember I have to wear his shoes no matter how uncomfortable it feels.
Wearing his shoes literally -To have fun like a child
Every night before sleeping I think of what all we can play and the next morning I get up all excited to play new games, new activities together.I never try to teach him in fact we learn it together.
Even he wears my shoes- My acts will define his personality
As a parent I have a huge responsibility of raising a baby into a mindful adult.That can only happen when I am mindful of my acts.Kids idolise their parents as role model.As a parent what I do will always be right for him.And hence I need to be a mindful adult to raise my child as one.
We both love taking rides on daddy’s shoes-Without his support nothing would have been possible
I can’t talk about my parenting mantra without him.He has been the biggest strength and most importantly dealt with temper tantrums, mood swings, bad behaviour of both of us mindfully with a smile without an iota of anger.
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